Women sharing their past

Some people believe in keeping things to themselves. I am not that kind, I talk about everything not to everyone ofcourse but if it necessary I do. I met a girl who stays in my block of flats. We started talking about everything from weather to relationships. I am very vocal when it comes to women abuse. I shared with her things that I have never told any soul about my past. And she opened up and told me things that she have never told anybody before.

Her story

We call each other 'Sju' a township slang meaning sister-in-law. Her name is Bo. "I was almost raped when I was young by my uncle. He use to call me to his bedroom and touch my private part. I remember one day, I was at home with him, and I was wearing my cousin's panties and my uncle saw this, he called me and pulled my dress up and said I will tell your mother that you are wearing so and so panties, while saying that he was touching my bum and I denied wearing my cousin's panties. And he let me go after that. This went on, other time he would call me and put me on his bed, took of my panties and he looked at me and pinched my vagina, he then said something to himself and left me there."

"You know Sju, I was young I didn't know there was something wrong with all that. But what I remember clearly is that he was very protective over me. I never told anybody about this and he stopped doing it."

The second attempt

"At home my granny kept a lot of goats. There was no one to look after the goats and it was decided that someone should be hired to look after the goats. My neighbour son was given the job. One day, it was very hot and we were at home, I was still young to go to school. He called me to his room and he told me to lie down on his sleeping mat and take of my panties. He then pulled down his pants and slept over me. When he was about to put his penis into my vagina, my twin brother saw us and he went to tell the adults."

"I was called and was asked what happened. My mother said I should tell everything they will not hit me. I told them exactly what happened. My twin was insisting that we had sex but I told them that he did not put it inside my vagina. Then they told me that what he did was wrong I must not allow people to that to me. They sent for the boy's father to be called and they made me to tell it again in front of everybody. I did. They sjambok him until he could not cry no more."

"I felt really bad about that, I wish I did not say anything but I am greatful that my twin brother saw us. Just imagine how things would have ended up."

A bond have been created between me and this girl. Some of us have to go through these in order to be what we are today. Some are not so lucky and their whole lives are messed up by these things. We need to have these moments when we talk about our past, fears, successes etc.